Published on 10 June 2011
According to research at the University of London, people really do fall madly in love.
Falling in love causes serotonin levels in the brain to drop, causing obsession. This in turn increases the production of cortisol, a stress hormone that causes high blood pressure and loss of sleep.
It’s not only that, but when we see and touch our new flame, the neural circuits that control social judgment.

Published on 02 June 2011
I wouldn’t call myself a shy person. I mean, I’ve never struggled to keep conversation with people I meet, but I’ve recently encountered a problem. For whatever reason, every time I see a girl, it’s like my brain and feet freeze. I simply can’t go up to talk to them. Any tips on breaking the ice?
Simon, via email

Published on 23 May 2011
I’ve always been the guy that’s friend to all, but lover of none. I hang around hot, single girls all the time and watch as they get used and abused by every bloke with a set of abs and a Hollywood smile. And the worst part is I’m not that bad looking myself. How can I break out of the friend zone once and for all?
Zac, via email

Published on 19 May 2011
I’ve been dating my partner on and off for seven years. He says he loves me, and has always thought that one day we would get hitched. When I’m with him, he is the perfect man. Funny, witty, makes me feel warm and fuzzy inside, but he doesn’t seem to want to take the next step. I really love him and would love to get married and start a family. What should I do?
Susan, via email

Published on 10 May 2011
Older-woman-younger-man relationships get plenty of attention. One only has to look as far as celebrities like Demi Moore and Ashton Kutcher or classic films such as The Graduate or more recently, Courtney Cox’s hit television series Cougar Town to see that the cougar fiasco has unleashed its claws on society.
But will it last?

Published on 27 April 2011
What are the factors you need to look at when you are deciding whether or not to stay friends with an ex? Does it matter which party broke it off? What is the etiquette if you and your ex are in the same social circle? What is the etiquette if you and your ex are in the same social circle? How should you conduct yourself around an ex if you are in the same workplace? What happens if you find yourself in a cycle of seeing each other, sleeping together, trying to make it work then breaking up again? Should you just make a clean break? Would being friends with an ex hamper your motivation to find a new relationship? Answers within!

Published on 15 April 2011
Dear John,
I had been seeing this guy for almost 4 months. We hit it off from the beginning, so much chemistry and compatible personalities.
After 4 months he tells me he is getting back with his ex-girlfriend, whom he had been with for two years prior to meeting me.
I was disappointed and told him this, also told him I'm ok with it. I too had been in a long term relationship - 12 years! (including 6 year marriage) which ended last year. He told me he was very confused whether or not to get back with his ex. So the best thing for me was to leave him and let him do what he wants. He told me he wants to remain friends, he likes me, finds me attractive and that we get along so well etc.
We have been talking and texting more than we did when we were 'dating' and we have become friends on Facebook and chat all the time. I like this guy. There are so many qualities I like in him, though he is with someone else. I have and still am going through something myself.
I'm confused as there is something between us, though I know nothing can happen whilst he is with someone. As I have been out of the dating scene for 13 years, I do not know what to do in this situation? Do you have any advice, suggestions or tips for me?
Thank you for taking the time to read my story.
Theresa, via email

Published on 10 March 2011
One of my favourite anecdotes is about the woman who wanted to find the perfect man. She came across a tall building that said; “Men Inside”.
She thought this would be a good place to start her search.
When she went inside, there was a man standing by the elevator. She asked about the sign; "Men Inside".
The man responded that, yes, this building was full of men. He told her that there were five more stories (levels) in the building, and that each story had men on it.
He told her that she could select any man in the building, or no man at all, whatever she liked. He also told her that she could start on lowest floor, look around, meet the men, and decide if she wanted to select one of them.

Published on 25 February 2011
When looking for a partner, the best place to look is at yourself. No, I don’t mean stand in front of a mirror and hope the best, but think about who you are. Think about your likes, dislikes, strengths and weaknesses. Now think about the person you want to be. If these two people don’t match up, do something about it!
